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Books on Identity & Grief
The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk
Essential reading for understanding how relational stress and trauma live in the body, and what helps the nervous system heal.
Necessary Losses — Judith Viorst
A wise and warm examination of the losses that define and shape us across a life — grief, endings, and growth.
Option B — Sheryl Sandberg & Adam Grant
On resilience after loss. Specific to grief but applicable to the after-period of any major life disruption.
Untethered Soul — Michael Singer
A philosophical exploration of identity that many people find useful when the old self feels dissolved and the new one hasn't formed yet.
Books on Divorce & Uncoupling
Splitopia — Wendy Paris
An unusually honest and positive look at how divorce can be done well — and what the research says about life after it.
Conscious Uncoupling — Katherine Woodward Thomas
A structured five-step approach to ending a relationship with intention, dignity, and minimal ongoing damage.
The New Single — Tamsen Fadal
A practical guide to rebuilding your life, identity, and social world after a significant relationship ends.
Books on Money
The Little Book of Common Sense Investing — John Bogle
The standard introductory text on index fund investing. Short, clear, and foundational for anyone starting from scratch.
I Will Teach You to Be Rich — Ramit Sethi
A practical, no-judgment system for getting your financial accounts organized and automated. Good for people starting over.
The Psychology of Money — Morgan Housel
On how emotions, history, and cognitive bias shape our relationship with money — essential context for financial decision-making.
Divorce & Money — Violet Woodhouse
A comprehensive guide to navigating the financial and legal dimensions of divorce, including property, taxes, and planning.
Podcasts
The Divorce Survival Guide — Kate Anthony
Practical, emotionally intelligent coverage of the process and aftermath of divorce. Especially useful for women navigating this transition.
Over It and On With It — Christine Hassler
A coaching-style podcast on life after major transitions — identity, relationships, self-worth, and building forward.
We Can Do Hard Things — Glennon Doyle
Honest conversations about difficulty, change, and building a life that is genuinely your own. Not specifically about divorce, but deeply relevant.
The Grief Code — Ian Hawkins
Explores the grief process in practical terms — tools for working through loss and building resilience.
Financial Tools
Mint / YNAB (You Need A Budget)
Budgeting apps for tracking spending and planning. YNAB is more structured and better for people rebuilding from scratch.
AnnualCreditReport.com
The official site for obtaining your free annual credit reports from all three bureaus. Start here.
NAPFA Advisor Search
Find a fee-only financial planner — one who charges you directly, not through commissions. napfa.org has a searchable directory.
Fidelity / Vanguard / Schwab
The three major brokerage platforms with low-cost index funds. Any of these is a reasonable place to open an IRA or investment account.
Finding Therapy
Psychology Today Therapist Finder
Search by specialty, location, and insurance. Filter for "divorce," "grief," or "relationship issues" to find relevant practitioners.
Open Path Collective
Reduced-cost therapy from licensed therapists. If full-price therapy is a barrier, this is a good starting point.
BetterHelp / Talkspace
Online therapy platforms. Quality varies, but they offer accessibility and lower cost than traditional in-person therapy.
EMDR Therapists
If the relationship involved trauma, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based approach. emdria.org has a directory.
Support Communities
DivorceCare
Group support programs for people going through divorce — available in person and online. divorcecare.org has a location finder.
Reddit r/Divorce & r/BreakUps
Large, active communities where people share experiences and support. Useful for feeling less alone, though quality of advice varies.
Trust After Trauma Community
For those whose relationships ended due to a partner's betrayal. Specialized peer support from others who understand this specific experience. trustaftertrauma.com/community